How does one succeed in life?
12.06.2025 01:43
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
Making more friends is a goal.
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Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
Ask yourself:
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
Procrastinates a lot.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Why do men like BBW? What is the attraction?
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
Do older men realize that younger women usually do not prefer them?
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Does not procrastinate.
Do not set goals—set systems.
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
What I need from you?
That's it for today.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Living to your full potential is a goal.
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.